I didn’t think I would have time to do anything substantial outside work today. Let alone blog. I just finished putting together a long presentation on inheritance and succession. I worked late, slept thinking about it, woke up thinking about it…and finally, it’s done. Whew!
A few months ago I had this mini-epiphany: Fear is easier than faith.
Scientists say that humans are born with a total of two fears. The fear of falling and fear of loud noises. When I read this i thought, the most fearless people in the world should be matatu conductors. Jumping off of moving vehicles with music so loud it could blind you.
We unfortunately manage to learn a million other fears as we grow older.
Fear is a go-to-emotion. Faith is more than an emotion. It is substance, evidence. Fear cripples you. Faith causes you to move past the paralysis and walk. It’s easier to be crippled. Seemingly easier I should say. It’s easier to resign yourself to circumstances than to believe in things unseen. It’s easier to make excuses than muster the courage to step out, believe and do great things. It’s easier to stick to a status quo you’re uncomfortable with than be different or stand out.
When you go with fear, “behave yourself” and do what you think everyone expects of you get the everyone’s nod but I can almost guarantee you, you will lose your soul.
When you take the road less traveled and go with faith, you gain your soul. It may take a while but if you truly believe in what you have, you gain other souls too!
Fear demands less of you than faith. And sadly, many people prefer to stay in their nice, warm comfort zone. I say do it afraid. For a long time I had serious stage fright. When I was younger, this did not exist. I was super confident and thrived among audiences. Somewhere along the way though, I lost it. I shook in my boots every time I had to address more than a few people.
I still get a bit nervous with crowds but I can proudly say that I am a lot better now. I take advantage and stand before people whenever I get the slightest opportunity. I have to unlearn the fear I picked up. I believe that I have important things to say-that are worth listening to!
I am really passionate about mentoring young girls (teenagers) and am currently working on a manual/curriculum for my mentorship program. Not because I was an excellent teenager. Haha… not close. Most of my teenage was shrouded by fear. I woke up afraid almost every single day of my high school life. I was afraid of the world, afraid to fail, afraid I was not beautiful enough… I had some serious identity issues and was depressed a lot! I hardly rebelled because I was lost somewhere inside my mind. My class performance was terrible. My parents were so concerned since I was a well above average student in primary school; topping the class in some subjects even. They took me to see a shrink who I doubt helped me much. (So yes, like Sheldon Cooper, my mother had me tested.)
Looking back, I can only attribute the re-birth of my confidence to my God. I sat at his feet often and begged him to let me see me as he does. And he did! By the time I went to campus to study Law (another miracle story for another day) my mojo was coming back. And it showed in my studies!
I challenge you today to turn your back on fear. Fear is a horrible master. No dues…ever. Do not allow yourself to continue being a slave. You are bigger. You are better. You can walk away.